10 Effective ways to communicate with our little ones
Being a mother is the most beautiful feeling in this world. Holding and feeling a part of you is a miracle in its own. Behind this gift are lots of sacrifices and hard work that a mother puts in dealing with his child. Being a mother means only 6 hours of sleep and the best part you don’t even need an alarm clock to wake you up, your toddler does that work quite well. It means to be an expert in poop and vomit cleaning but beware to cover your nose otherwise you may end up throwing up. You know you are a mother when you remember all the nursery rhymes by heart and you are more concerned about your child’s health and sleep over yours. It’s about dealing with the crankiness, the whining, the mood swings, the eating tantrums, indigestion, teething, constipation, and the most horrible potty training which is bound to give you night mares. Looking in to its miseries we cannot forget that it’s the highest paid job in the world as its payment is pure love.
Mothers often learn from their own and from others experiences about how to communicate with their toddler and understand what he is going through. Some toddlers learn to speak at the age of 3; until they learn to speak they develop a sense of frustration of not able to understand what they want. That’s what makes a mother’s life miserable. To lessen your miseries we have devised 10 effective ways to communicate with the little ones, they are as follows:
- Connect: Connect with your toddler, the more time you spent with the easier it will be for you to understand him. Kids often communicate through expressions; try to identify different expressions to understand what your toddler is trying to convey to you. Toddlers have a language of their own; since they are still in the process of learning a new language they may not be able to pronounce words correctly. It’s a mother’s job to understand his toddler through the broken words before he gets frustrated.
- Stay Simple: your toddler is in the process of understanding so try to use short sentences of 4 to 5 words so that he gets a clear idea of your instructions. Too many words can make him uncertain about what you are saying and you may end pulling your hair out in misery.
- Be positive: When talking to your toddler use words that are positive rather than the words that may provoke a negative reaction like “NO”. For example instead of “no running” you say “inside we walk, outside we run”.
- Choose your words wisely: When you are talking to your toddler choose words that are more of a request that he has to comply to please you such as “I want you to brush your teeth”. Furthermore, choose words like when and then so that he is encouraged to listen to what you want him to do for example “when you take bath then you can go and play”.
- Never give choices: It’s not always a good idea to give choices to your little ones. They are growing up and it’s hard for them to make up their mind. Little ones can drive you crazy while choosing something and you can end up with a room looking like a shop hit by a mega sale if you ask them to choose their clothes.
- Talk the child down: When your little one is bursting with anger or having an over dose of crankiness be sure to be calm listener. Let you child ventilate while you intervene with the timely comments such as ” I understand” and “Can I help”.
- Open up a closed child: talking to your little one is always a good idea to make him open up. This is also something that will enable him in making friends in the future and will help you in dealing with irritable child. Try to talk to him about things of his interest, for example if he is a girl try talking to her about dolls, princess etc.
- Always show concern: If you want to give some instructions to your little ones try to use words that show concern and affection. Use words such as “I understand” “I am here for you”. Using such words leaves a long lasting impact on a child’s mind and he will probably listen to you more when you use such words.
- Don’t shout or beat up your child: sometimes your little ones can give you a really hard time but shouting and beating up your child is never a solution. Instead of calming down a child shouting may make him even angrier and he may raise his hand on you or do such actions out of anger.
- Show acceptance: Last on my list is the most important thing of all is to show your child you love him and accept him with all his differences. Make it a priority to communicate with your child, just hear his silly stories or about his friends.
All of the sacrifices and hardships that a mother face results in the bringing up of a beautiful, responsible ,kindhearted and talented young man or woman who will become an asset to the society. A mother is the person who gets all the credit for the success and even the failure of his child so try to communicate and connect with your child from an early age to make him a man/woman you want him/her to be.